I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been asked or have read about a mom and/or dad who has decided to homeschool and is catching flack from well intended family and/or friends.
“What do we do… how do we answer them… how do I make them understand?”
You can send them all types of stats on how well homeschoolers do in college and that they are even sought out by colleges. You can show them test scores. You can tell them that your 2nd grader – better yet, your 15 year old can hold intelligent conversations with adults. You can Facebook blogs and articles on field trips, unschooling, Classical Conversations, dual enrollment, science experiments and lapbooks. You can quote Charlotte Mason and even have a photo of your family with Bob Jones himself but at the end of the day you have to know why you and your spouse chose homeschooling. Whatever the reason may be know your convictions and stick to it.
I get really irritated with the stupid questions. Honestly, I do. I’ve even bought homeschool t-shirts that answer some of those stupid questions. LOL! I really have! I feel impatient and want to pull out my very best sarcasm. Ok. I’ve done that too. I have to remind myself that most people just don’t understand. They weren’t raised around us freaky homeschool types. Hey, I wasn’t raised around us freaky homeschool types. 😉 They don’t understand why we feel our children are better off at home, locked in their rooms, drilling Latin, surrounded by their siblings and goodness forbid– their parents. 🙂 They feel that the public or private system served them well– they have a good job, decent family, love the Lord and are faithful citizens. It worked for them, maybe even you- it should work for your kids. It’s okay. They just don’t share your convictions- and they don’t HAVE to share your convictions. Homeschool ISN’T for everyone. It’s true.
Be kind. Be understanding. Answer the stupid questions… again. 🙂 Then wait. After a few years, they start to “get it.” People begin to see the results. Then be quiet and know that you’ve been faithful homeschool parents. Yes, you have a few more grey hairs then when you started. You haven’t been to the restroom totally uninterrupted in the past 2 years. No, your kitchen cabinets haven’t had a decent cleaning for far too long. Yes, you have enough curriculum to start your own library but you also have taken the time to educate your child(ren). You have been there when they learned to read. You took them on those “field trips” to the grocery store (IT COUNTS! You counted the cans of green beans as you put them in the cart). You were there when they saw the caterpillar forming it’s chrysalis (in that stinky net thing). You were there for all the sick days they never got (my kids say I give assignments between the episodes of a stomach bug). You found creative solutions to sibling disputes. You were there for all of it. That’s the most treasured thing… time. You gave your time. All of it. Everyday.
Be encouraged, hang on tight and keep homeschooling!