l write this blog… primarily for you, Jordan 🙂 because there is so much out there. So much by well intended people who live in never-land. I’ll also say that I’m no expert- Yeah… I should be after 6 babies… but I’m not. Here are a few things to consider as you wait to welcome your baby girl into the world:
- Survive. You have to listen to your intuition and pray a lot. The Lord has and will continue to equip you for this great task. You’ll do great!
- Sleep- I know many will disagree with me. I have to have sleep, Jordan. End of discussion. I chose to let baby sleep with me. My favorite tool is the nursing nest. Bar-none worth every dollar (and buy a couple extra covers). It allows the baby to be right next to you with a little separation to provide extra safety and security. I typically would put the baby down in his/her bed and when they wake I would let them nurse and we’d both fall asleep. Worked for me…
- Blankets- I LOVE this swaddling blanket. Not all babies like to be swaddled… but all but one of mine did. Have plenty of thin receiving blankets… they will function like burp cloths… changing areas… and coverups.
- Nursing- Regardless of how you may feel about nursing that baby girl. I highly encourage you to give her your best shot. It can be difficult to get the hang of it… but remember who designed the whole process. Don’t be afraid to get help from a lactation consultant. It’s FREE, healthy and convenient. Get some type of wrap around nursing cover like these. I found one at Target I loved!
- Take advice with a grain of salt- So many well intended people will give you more information than you can imagine. Smile, thank them and let them know you’ll ponder their advice. Then go about your life. There will be times you hear something really great… and you’ll know it 🙂
- We always picked ours up when they cry. There was a popular book called “Baby Wise”. It tells us to let them cry it out and so on and so forth. A well intended family member gave us book 1 and 2. I knew in my spirit it was junk from the moment we started reading. Since then the AAP has come out against the book and to my knowledge it’s the first book they’ve been so strong about. I have this theory that since babies have lived in their mommies tummies for so long they no nothing else and therefore just want to be near them… all the time. They have only known the dark, warmth of her body… the soothing of her voice and movement. Then they get popped out into our bright, loud & busy world… what a shock. We expect them to have wads of diapers shoved between their little legs, clothes on and people kissin’ on them. No wonder they get ill. Hold her, Jordan… don’t let anyone tell you different. It won’t spoil her (well… maybe a little)… she won’t be “too dependent”… HELLO, she already is!… you won’t regret holding her!
- Being over tired or over stimulated- I found that all my babies would get discombobulated when others messed with them too much… you know all those well intended visits. They would get out of their groove and would often get too tired. At that point we would have to swaddle up, go into a dimly lit room, snuggle and eat. It would take some patience but they would settle down and feel secure and at peace. I know I have tended to be a little (ok… a LOT) over protective… but I’m ok with it 🙂
- Taking her out and about- I know many folks say don’t take them out the first 6 weeks. I get it. But I had a fantastic pediatrician give me advice that I abided by and it worked very well. Once baby girl is born, she will have your immunity. She will still have it those first 6 weeks. She will begin loosing it and will start building her own around 5/6 months. That is the point you need to be more cautious. You don’t have to be crazy… just aware.
- Those people that feel they can rub your tummy will also think they can touch your baby. Let me just say, I HATE this. You’ll be surprised how many people will ask to hold her. I just always say, “No” in a “nice” way. I tell kids to touch her feet because she puts her hands in her mouth. I found at church (just bein’ honest) people really wanted to pass her around. I would keep her buckled in her car seat and that would prevent a lot of that. I know people are usually well intended and will want to hug and kiss on your new miracle… I was just always overly cautious… especially with Boy1.
- Take time to enjoy each moment with her and with your husband… the time moves far too quickly…. pray for her, hold her, sing to her…
I’m so proud of you, Jordan- the woman you have become… the mother you will be. Come visit me in New Orleans! I love you!