A sweet friend recently asked me (and several other moms) for some imput on time management for a class she is taking here at NOBTS. She asked about kids, quiet times and all that great stuff. It is a great topic. I am sharing some of the thoughts her question brought to mind. Let me know your thoughts. We’re all in this journey together!
So here’s the truth: I’m often a failure in this area… especially in the are of quiet time and prayer… a failure. (Not bashing myself… just being transparent). No insult intended, but it’s easy for me to give the “right” answer… you know, the “Sunday school” answer… but I’m not living it. I’d like to say I get up before the DH (ha) and the kids (ha for that #5 girlie of mine) have a quiet time with deep prayer time… maybe even serving a home-made breakfast… dishes washed… laundry warm in the basket… dogs walked… the scent of pine-sol lingering in the air… not reality for me.
By nature, I’m an organized person (ha also, if you’ve seen my house). I like order, patterns and such. Nothing makes me happier than to see my large calendar covered in well-written instructions for the week. I find comfort in consistency. The funny game the Lord is playing on me right now is how insane life is with 6 kids and incredibly busy husband. Dr. visits, ministry opportunities, music lessons, sickness, two little girls 3 and under, music rehearsals, CHURCH :)… make it so hard to PLAN anything. My honest advice for those of us with children who are still small: SURVIVE. That’s it. Do your best to create order, patterns, schedules but you MUST be flexible… or you might just go nuts. Flexibility doesn’t come naturally to me. I make plans- I carry out the plans. End of discussion. HA! I can find myself in a tizzy… shuffling around like that proverbial chicken reorganizing my day… frustrated to NO end that something/someone had the nerve to throw MY plans to the side… haha! You just have to laugh. I’m learning to sit back and if nothing else close my lips… sometimes the re-plans are better than my original plans. (Boy was that hard to admit 🙂
As for my quiet time. I know many would disagree… so I’m ready for the constructive criticism… I have spent plenty of time bashing myself for not having 30 minutes a day of intense Bible reading followed by an hour and a half of prayer… hundreds of verses memorized and so on. I would like to have 35 discipleship books filled with insights, but I don’t. I believe I have allowed the enemy to use the Bible to hit me on the head… I mean, to make me feel guilty about not being a “good” Christian. He tells me things like, “There are so many people, especially MINISTRY wives, who are more knowledgeable” (and there are :)… You’re so weak (and often I am )”… but I’m learning that in this season of my life, I can shoot up “arrow” prayers throughout the day… it’s ok to drift off to sleep while praying… and my favorite- reading a devotional thought while making use of restroom time (really transparent here :)… I’m by no means criticizing thorough study of God’s word… please don’t misunderstand. I’m in a season of survival. I desire to me more intentional… I also know the Lord knows me better than I know myself. He knows my thoughts from afar. He knows when I sit down and when I rise up (and when I finally made it to bed last night). He loves me perfectly… I’m so thankful!
As moms, we have to do our best with what the Lord has given us… time, talents, resources, children, extended family if applicable… we have to survive- He is the source of my strength. He is my light and my joy. I pray my life will evidence that truth.
Thanks De for asking me about my journey!